Inside Happyness

I've been doing quite a bit of reflection recently with the holidays.  With recent personal issues.  With situations with relatives and friends.  With health issues.  With everything that is everyday life.  And I keep defaulting back to a realization that I discovered to be most influential with my current moods.

I discovered that I had not been living my life with me in mind.  About ten years ago, I married.  Over a period of years, I became seriously unhappy without my knowledge or consent.  As funny as that sounds, it took job changing, marriage ending, a new life start (because I had to) plus counseling to realize one of the most important items.  Happyness, true happyness comes from inside.  Inside you.

You can share your life with someone that enhances your happiness, but they cannot make your happy, or for that matter, keep you happy.  Your own happiness has to be dependent on feelings, factors, stimulation, and enjoyment totally outside anyone else.  You have to be happy with you yourself first.  Then, take note of how you got there, what makes you that way, and don't forget it. Take notes. Memorize.  Live it. Learn it.

Don't compromise for anyone.  It ain't worth it. Unfortunately, I did, and it happened without my knowledge or consent.  It has taken me some time to find that again.  And I have.  And never been happier.  And, this time around, I'm not compromising.